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It’s not news that kids learn about the world from their parents. And sometimes, what they learn can create major money blocks when they grow up.
It actually doesn’t matter whether you grow up rich or poor, because money blocks come from self-limiting beliefs that are rarely true.
So in this post, I’m looking at five of the most common (and most damaging) money messages that kids pick up – and how to shift them.
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Your blocks can come from the smallest things
Sometimes, when you look back over your early childhood, the sources of your money blocks are really obvious. Maybe your parents constantly fought over money. Maybe they divorced and had massive fights over child support.
Stuff like that can be really damaging.
Other times, though, your money stories come from far more subtle things. Sometimes just hearing your parents use a phrase a few times is enough to teach your growing brain that “this is the way the world really is.”
Below, you’ll find five super common block-creating messages that parents can unconsciously teach their kids. And if you recognize any of them from your own childhood, there’s a great resource at the end of the post to help you shift them.
Five damaging money messages that kids absorb
How many of the following sayings can you remember hearing while you were growing up?
#1 In for a penny, in for a pound
Entrepreneurs usually use this one when they’ve invested time and money into something that they now wish they hadn’t. The assumption behind it is that if you change your mind and let go of something, you’ll waste everything you’ve already spent on it.
The psychological term for this kind of thinking is “sunk cost bias.” It can keep you broke by convincing you that you’re not allowed to walk away from anything that you once committed to.
A similar thing your parents might have said is, “You’ve made your bed, now lie in it.” The message there is that if you’ve screwed something up, you’ve got to live with the consequences FOREVER.
So maybe you’re six months into a business that you’re starting to hate. Maybe you’ve realized that you hired the wrong person to make your website. Maybe like me, you created something expensive like a mobile app, only to realize towards the end that it was a mistake.
You might think that just because you’ve invested money, you’re not allowed to change your mind and say no.
In reality, though, you can quit anything that doesn’t work for you at any time. You don’t have to keep to keep throwing good money after bad!
When you’re in a hole, stop digging! Stop funneling any further money into something you know isn’t right for you. Stop rolling the turd in glitter.
Plus, every business screw up is a priceless lesson. You don’t have to recoup the cost in the same way you invested. Maybe the lesson you learned is totally worth the money you lost.
#2 Money doesn’t grow on trees
Maybe this one really confused you as a child. After all, back in the days when money was made of actual paper – it technically DID grow on trees. Obviously, though, the metaphorical meaning is that money is finite and hard to come by, and that there’s never enough of it.
This message is damaging because it can stop you from seeing all the ways in which money can flow to you with ease.
The truth is that there are infinite ideas for ways to make money in the world. You can create an empire with your creativity and ingenuity.
If you really want to stretch the tree analogy into something positive, think about how amazing forests have grown over time from tiny little seeds.
Your business is the same way. Little actions that you take today can bear fruit over time and create amazing abundance for generations to come.
The saying goes, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, but the next best time is now.”
What legacy are you building today in your business?
#3 Do you think I’m made of money?
Maybe you heard this a lot growing up. When you were an innocent child, you didn’t have limits around your desires. You wanted lots of cool stuff, and probably asked your parents for things without thinking about adult concepts like money blocks.
Hearing this might have made you believe that:
- Not only is money is generally rare, but your parents don’t have enough of it
- There are far more important things to spend it on than your desires
- You’re selfish and bad for asking
These messages do more than keep you broke. They can also make you believe that you’re not allowed to ask for what you want in life. Then as an adult, you feel guilty for creating a First Class life because you’ve been told that the only option is to settle for Economy Class.
#4 It’s better to be happy than rich
OMG, this is such a damaging one! The assumption behind it – that you can’t be happy AND rich – is obvious now as an adult, but you might have totally believed your parents if they constantly said this.
In fact, you might STILL say this, because you’ve so fully absorbed the idea that you can only have one or the other.
And now, as an entrepreneur, this might keep you broke. After all, making more money in your business triggers an underlying fear that being rich would only make you miserable.
#5 Money is dirty
Finally, there’s the idea that money is somehow unclean. You might have also heard the term “filthy rich” or “money grubbing” as if rich people are automatically doing something dodgy to earn their money.
This could also start as a hygiene thing. Parents worry about germs on money, so they tell their kids to wash their hands after handling it, and not to put it near their mouths.
As a mother of toddlers, I totally get this. I’ve regularly had to stop myself saying to my kids, “Don’t lick that coin! Money is dirty!”
What kids often hear, though, is that money is bad; and that it might even make them sick. So no wonder they block it flowing to them once they grow up.
I don’t want to make the idea of money into a negative reaction that might live in my children’s little bodies. So instead, I try to say very neutrally, “We don’t put money in our mouths. We take care of it.”
If you heard that money was dirty a lot when you were growing up, try re-framing it. Remind yourself about all the good you can do with your money.
Get step-by-step help to overcome money blocks
Ok, so what do you DO with all this information?
Sometimes, just being aware of the story behind your blocks is enough to shift them. I also recommend using EFT to tap on your feelings around the blocks, and forgiving anyone involved in creating them (including yourself!)
However, if just doing these things doesn’t get you anywhere, I have the perfect training to help. It’s designed to help you kick your money blocks to the curb, and guides you through clearing the seven most common blocks for entrepreneurs. And it’s 100% free!
Download it today from www.LuckyBitch.com/Blocks
It’s your time and you’re ready for the next step,