Today we took the kids to go visit “our beach” – the one that we’re building our dream house next to.
As we sat there, talking about the Sacred Money Archetypes launch while the kids played in the sand, I said to Mark. “Wow – it took us 6 years to get here”.
When we first moved here, we started over from scratch. No savings, no jobs, no friends.
We used to walk along this very same beach and say “THIS is where we’re going to live one day”. Honestly, we’d go there every single day. We’d point to the houses and say “One of these will be OURS”.
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For years, my password was the name of the street. I even drove up to the houses and say “I’m coming home” and FEEEEEEEEL what it would feel to live there.
For 6 years it was my dream to live in a “beach mansion on X St” (not the real name of the street obviously).
We lived in a little apartment, we had crappy cars – but life wasn’t all bad, you know? I can’t say that our electricity was in danger of being turned off, or we ate dog-food to stay alive. Not all rags to riches stories are that dramatic.
But I had a hunger in my heart and in my soul (to get all dramatic on you) for something different. It wasn’t enough for me to live like that. I wanted more for my life. I wanted to live up to my full potential.
Even though I had conflicting feelings about it, I wanted to be… well, I’ll just say it… rich. I wanted to be RICH.
I wanted to travel First Class. I wanted to write big checks to charity. I wanted a computer that worked. I wanted nice clothes and shoes (although I secretly worried that made me superficial).
That first year of my business, Mark would often say “maybe you should just get a job, you seem pretty stressed out by your business”.
And I was.
I’d often work REALLY late (because I couldn’t switch off my business brain) and woke up REALLY early to see international clients on Skype (because I had terrible boundaries). I’d stay up Googling html code, or obsessed about hex colors.
Every new thing in business (first default payment, first 1-star review on Amazon, first copycat) felt like a death.
“Why are we doing this to ourselves…?” I’d moan to my best biz friend. “Business suuuuuuuuucks so hard!”
Business is scary! Asking for money is scary!
I’m going to be a bit blunt here (fun fact – sometimes kids at school would call me Dr Phil because I’d often “tell it like it is”).
Not everyone is going to make it.
In business I mean. Just because you want it, doesn’t automatically make it yours.
I really wanted that beach house, but it took 6 years of working, releasing and personal discoveries for me to make the money for it. Tons of inner work.
I know you’re scared. Everyone is.
That’s not a good enough excuse. It’s really not. Fear itself means shit.
Yes, it’s scary to push through resistance. Yes, it sucks to get “hater mail” or to hear no all the time. It sucks to put your heart and soul into something and then get nothing back in return.
You know what motivates me sometimes? Reading obituaries. Or thinking about those actuarial tables where it shows you statistically how most people will die and when.
It seriously fires me up. Because not everyone gets to live their dreams. Some of us will die early. Some of us will live for a long time. But how do we know which is which?
Over the last few weeks, we’ve sent you a bunch of information about your money archetype, and now lots of women in the lucky bee community are seeing that “how you do money is how you do everything” (shout out to the creator of the SMA, Kendall SummerHawk).
Yup. Your money personality will show up in almost everything you do. In good and bad ways.
You’ll sabotage yourself (and sales)
You’ll feel like the worst bitch in the world asking for money
You’ll resist doing the work
And it’s COSTING you. It’s costing you money, time, freedom – and it’s keeping you further and further away from your dreams.
Here’s what I know about achieving big goals (and trust me, buying and building this beach house is a multi-million dollar exercise, years in the making). I grew up on welfare with a single mother – who knew I could build this level of success?
( I did )
Seriously, I knew. But hoping and wishing in your potential to be fulfilled doesn’t automatically make it happen.
It’s going to take a boat-load of inner work.
More than you think.
It’s going to take persistence.
More than you think.
It’s going to take courage.
Actually less than you think!
The Universe rises up to meet you halfway, and nothing is ever as scary as you think it’s going to be!
I know I can help you. With my years of experience working with leaders (did you know I’ve been teaching leadership for 18 years?), my dedication to the Lucky Bee community (we’ve just clicked over 96,224 subscribers) and best of all my money TOOLS – I can help you release your money blocks and live a First Class life.
My new course, the Sacred Money Archetypes® go so much deeper than the quiz. This is the tip of the iceberg.
And time to register is rapidly running out.
Briefly – it’s a live 5-week course to delve deeper into YOUR unique path to wealth. To uncover your unique challenges when it comes to making money.
It will reopen in mid-2018, and you should join the waitlist HERE.
NURTURERS: I know you care so deeply that sometimes you feel helpless and small. Your heart aches at all the problems you want to solve in the world, but you’re afraid that asking for money for your talents is going to turn you into a greedy, soulless bitch. That will never happen, but I can help you with the beautiful boundaries you need, and help you develop courage. Join the 2018 waitlist here.
RULERS: I know you have BIG BIG dreams and you’re impatient that they aren’t happening as fast as you’d like. Hear this with love: You have more inner work to do. You have to master “grace and flow”, even though you’ll resist it with every fiber of your workaholic personality. Surrender your worker bee credentials and you’ll become Queen of your world. Join the 2018 waitlist here.
ALCHEMISTS: I know in some ways, you’re complacent about your finances. Easy come, easy go right? You can always manifest more, what’s the big deal? But, I also know you have a big desire to change the world, and money is only going to AMPLIFY the good you can do. Let me be blunt – you’re playing too small right now. Let’s turn your magic into wealth… for everyone. The world needs you. Join the 2018 waitlist here. You know you’ll manifest the money to pay it back anyway 😉
CELEBRITIES: Underneath your glitz and glamour is a giant heart, and not everyone in your world appreciates the sparkle you bring into their lives. But you know what? Of all the SMAs, everyone secretly wants to be YOU, because you role model self-care and pleasure. And when I help you harness those gifts, your leadership will help SO many women raise their standards for themselves. Joining us in the SMA course will be an incredible purchase that will pay off for years to come. Join the 2018 waitlist here.
ACCUMULATORS: Omg – everyone wants to be you too. Honestly. I know you probably thought you got the “boring” archetype but you have so many amazing gifts. But listen up: staying in the contracted side of your personality isn’t going to give you the freedom you want. Spending money to join this course is not going to make you homeless on the street. It’s a smart, safe and worthwhile investment. Join the 2018 waitlist here.
MAVERICKS: Let me try some reverse psychology on you – don’t join this course. In fact, you’re forbidden! Ha ha. No seriously, I know you sometimes resist the herd, even when it goes against your own self-interest. You know what’s more fun than being a rebel? Being a RICH rebel! Nobody has more freedom than a rich maverick. Break the rules AND be a role model for others who want to break free too. But whatever you do, don’t join the 2018 waitlist here and definitely DON’T join SMA.
CONNECTORS: I know you sometimes judge other entrepreneurs because they care “more about money than people” and also that’s why you justify keeping your business small. I see you! Keeping your head in the sand is not only hurting you, but it’s stopping you from helping SO many people with your gifts. Let me help you serve and prosper (you don’t have to choose). Join the 2018 waitlist here.
ROMANTICS: I want to appeal to your inner little girl who wants EVERYTHING but has probably been told that you’re just “not good with money”. I know thinking about money sometimes bursts your chill bubble, but I promise you it’s not going to be boring, complicated or scary. Money is going to help take everything on your dream board and turn it into reality. Don’t procrastinate – join the 2018 waitlist here.
When we drive past our beach property where our new house is being built, I look at the space where my office is going, picture myself working there, writing to you… just like I always knew it would happen.
Rich women are the missing piece of creating peace on this planet. Together we’re going to change the world.
Denise “Dr Phil but really I want to be Oprah” Duffield-Thomas
P.S Every day of this Sacred Money Archetypes® launch, I’ve said a little prayer to my Goddess altar and said “Whoever will be blessed by this work, please send them our way”.
I know you will be blessed by this work. Join the 2018 waitlist here.