Hey Lucky Bee!
Are you worried about money right now? Or maybe you’ve been worried about money for a long time, and you don’t know how to deal with it or change things for the better.
Well, there’s no time like the present to sort it out. I’ve helped tens of thousands of women with their money blocks for a few years now, and I’ve seen three common fears that pop up repeatedly.
“There’s never enough money”
“I’m not good at managing money (even if I have it)”
“It’s not safe for me to have money”
If you have any of those worries yourself, today I’m going to give you some practical techniques to deal with them. Plus, I’ll also tell you how to access a free workshop that will help you to manage any other money worries you’re dealing with right now.
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Worry #1: “There’s never enough”
Most of us grew up learning that money was a zero-sum game (where nobody gains without someone else losing out). Add in the constant news and social media stories of people who are struggling, plus friends and family who freak out about money…
It’s no wonder that some deep-down part of you believes that there isn’t really enough. And then, every time you get an unexpected bill or have a financial hiccup, it just provides more evidence for that belief.
This worry can also manifest itself in jealousy. If you worry that someone else has “taken” your success or that “everything has already been done,” you’re living in this scarcity mindset.
Funnily enough, on the other side, “there’s never enough” can also show up as a guilty feeling. You can worry that any time you experience success, someone else will have to miss out because of it.
So how do you deal with the “never enough” worry?
- Voice your fear: acknowledge your worry to keep it from bubbling away beneath the surface and sneakily sabotaging you. I talk about how to do this in more depth in my “dealing with money worries” post.
- Limit your negativity intake: I’m not telling you to stop watching the news altogether, but I recommend putting some serious boundaries around negative news consumption. Ditto with the time you spend around any friends or family members who bring you down (and here’s some tips for dealing with negative people if you need help).
- Remind yourself that there’s enough for everyone: there are more than enough ideas, clients, opportunities, etc. to go around.
- Spend more time around people who are doing well: actively seeking out people who are rocking their money gives your subconscious mind evidence that there can be enough. If you don’t know anyone like this in the “real world”, look for online groups where they hang out (hint: there are lots of them in my Bootcamp!)
Worry #2: “I’m not good at managing money”
Lots of women have been told their whole lives that they aren’t good at handling or managing money. This often starts at a really young age.
I was actually terrible at math when I was at school. I needed a weekly tutor just to pass my exams. Even now, today, I can’t do simple sums without my calculator. But you know what?
It’s never stopped me from making money.
Plus, if you’ve never had a lot of money before, it’s only natural to worry about mishandling it when you finally do get it. Or perhaps you’ve actively messed up with money before – maybe spent it on stupid things, or got yourself neck-deep in debt (I’ve been there!). If so, this worry probably lurks underneath the surface whenever you think about money.
And if you don’t deal with it, it can actively block you from allowing more money into your life.
Here are some tips:
- Do a money memory inventory: look back at the way you’ve managed your money in the past. Have there been times where you wish you’d done things differently? The answer’s probably yes: we all have! The best thing you can do is to forgive yourself and let those memories go.
- Tap it out: EFT (aka “tapping”) is one of my favorite techniques for releasing blocks. And you don’t have make a song and dance of it – you can tap discreetly in public if you want to. I do it all the time.
- Get some practical money help: Add experts to your team, like book keepers, accountants and financial advisors. These people will be thrilled to help you, so don’t think you have to be perfect before you speak to them.
Worry #3: “It’s not safe for me to have money”
A lot of women have this vague sense that money will change them into some kind of crazy rich bitch. Or they fear that getting money will mean they’ll lose all their friends, or that something “bad” will happen to them.
This worry tends to happen more if you don’t know any rich women in real life. If that’s the case for you, you’ve probably only seen greedy, mean bitches in movies and TV.
The truth though, is that you can be any kind of rich woman you like. You don’t have to change into someone you don’t want to be. There are no rules!
Here are a few practical tips to help:
- Seek out real-life examples that contradict the media image: read biographies of women like Audrey Hepburn, Oprah Winfrey, Maria Shriver or Melinda Gates: all rich, powerful women who use their wealth to create positive change in the world.
- Ask yourself what kind of rich woman you’d most like to be: imagine you had a spare million dollars right now. What would you do with it? What causes would you support? You’ll probably find that “million-dollar you” is nothing like the “spoiled rich bitch” archetype.
- Take baby steps towards being that person NOW: money helps you to become more of who you already are. So if you want to be a super-generous philanthropist, look for opportunities to be generous on a smaller scale now. If you want more luxury or ease in your life, look for little ways you can bring it into your life now.
- Give yourself permission to not be perfect: you don’t have to prove you’re somehow more worthy than you are now. Seriously, you’re already allowed to be YOU and be rich. You don’t have to change. Go look in a mirror and say to yourself, “THIS is what a wealthy woman looks like.”
How to change your relationship with money
Changing the way you relate to money all starts with identifying YOUR biggest money block. And to help you do that, I’ve got a free workshop where I go through the seven most common money blocks and how to deal with them.
You’ll be surprised how practical we get in it. That’s good news because you can start working on your blocks today and see the results within days.
Watch the workshop now at www.LuckyBitch.com/Blocks
Did you miss last week’s post? Read it here: How to Create or Upgrade Your Lady Mafia