Hey there gorgeous Lucky Bee!
Today, we’re talking about a difficult topic: breakups – and in particular, breaking up with someone who provides you with a business service. This could be a coach, assistant or practitioner of some kind.
Breakups are never fun; but for us female entrepreneurs, the business-related ones can be especially awkward and feel really personal.
Many women I know lose sleep over how to say goodbye to service providers. In fact, we’ll often stay with people for way longer than we should to avoid hurting their feelings – even if our own businesses suffer for it.
So if saying goodbye is something you struggle with, this is the article for you!
Today we’ll look at why you might need to break up with someone, and suggest three ways to say goodbye without feeling like a bitch. Plus, I have a gift that’ll help you feel light and free about ending the relationship.
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Here’s a breakup truth: “bad fit” doesn’t mean “bad people”
OK, so you’ve realized that working with someone just isn’t doing it for you anymore.
The trouble is, you have no freaking idea what to do now!
How do you tell a service provider that you want to break up with them?
First up, remember that just because you don’t fit well together anymore doesn’t mean either of you did something wrong. It’s natural to grow and evolve over time – both as people and as businesses. Someone who was perfect for you a year ago might not be anymore. And that’s okay.
Other possible reasons include:
- You’ve changed your business model to something they know nothing about
- You’ve grown beyond their ability to teach or heal
- You’ve become close enough friends that business between you feels weird
- They’ve changed their focus, and it’s no longer as relevant to you
- They’ve dropped the ball too many times
You have a right to work with the best person for you
You know how I constantly say that not everyone is your ideal client? Well, the same is true in reverse too. Not everyone is your ideal service provider.
And if you keep working with someone despite a bad fit, you can create a ton of pain and misery for yourself AND them.
If your provider is really switched on, they’ll realize something’s amiss and bring the subject up with you. But not everyone’s that self-aware. Sometimes, they’ll have money blocks that keep them from letting go of ANY client, even if they know they aren’t doing a good job for you anymore. Or they might worry about hurting your feelings by ending things with YOU.
Either way, they don’t want to have the breakup conversation with you either.
That means you’re going to need to take responsibility for it yourself. Because, girlfriend, you have a right to have a First Class team around you.
3 ways to say goodbye without feeling like a bitch
What, exactly, do you say to breakup with your service provider? How do you stand your ground while still being nice about it? Here are three approaches…
#1 The “It’s not you, it’s me” approach
This is the best one if you want to let your service provider save face. It’s also great if you simply want to extricate yourself from the relationship with minimum conflict.
Try something like, “I really appreciate the awesome work you’ve done for me up until now. You’ve really created some amazing results. I’ve just realized that what I want has changed, so I’d like this to be our final session together.”
#2 The “100% honesty” approach
This one’s great if you’ve had a completely open, honest relationship with your provider from Day #1. It’s also perfect if you know they’ll value clear feedback about any improvements they could make… or you just feel like you owe them that honesty.
The specifics of what to say will be different for each provider. If you’re not sure, try talking it through with your business bestie or mastermind group, and get their feedback.
Remember that not everyone can handle the truth, though, so use your gut on this one. And if face-to-face conversations stress you out, it’s totally okay to “breakup” over email.
#3 The “short and sweet” approach
If you just want the conversation over ASAP, and you want to be super firm, take your cue from the “‘No’ is a complete sentence!” crowd.
Try something simple and polite like, “Thanks for all your work so far. My situation’s changed, and I’d prefer not to continue after today. Please send your final invoice.”
You owe it to yourself to speak up
Whatever approach you use, ending the relationship sooner rather than later will give you SO MUCH RELIEF. It will also free up your energy to move to the next level. Otherwise, if you stay in the relationship, the energetic clutter will hold you back and keep you playing small.
And these tips are just as valid for any relationship in your business or life that’s not working.
It doesn’t matter whether you want to break up with your hairdresser, find a new cleaning company, or just set boundaries around how you want things done at home. It’s about telling the Universe that you’re not prepared to settle for anything less than you deserve.
It’s safe for you to have what you want.
Can’t bring yourself to say anything?
Kicking off a difficult conversation isn’t easy, and it takes practice.
If you’re into more woo-woo practices, I’ve got a special gift to help you release the energy between you and your supplier before you have to break up in real life.
It’s a guided meditation that leads you through how to cut energetic cords in a safe and beautiful way that frees you both up to live life for your highest good.
This is usually only available to members of my Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp, but it’s yours free today.
To download it, just go to www.LuckyBitch.com/cords
It’s your time and you’re ready for the next step!