Do you ever have moments of feeling doubtful and insecure about your business and your ability to be successful?
We all do!
Let’s deal with it together!
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Lucky Bitch Video Transcript – How To Deal With Fear, Insecurity, And Doubt In Your Business
You might notice that in a lot of my videos, I start off by saying that what you’re experiencing is completely normal.
Today’s video is no exception.
When things go wrong in business, women (myself included) have this tendency to turn it around on themselves, as if it means something about their ability.
We make up stories that we’re not good enough, that we’re not meant to be in business, and that we should give up.
It’s sad, because entrepreneurship is such an amazing opportunity for women. It’s an amazing vehicle for you to create independence, freedom, and financial abundance – and you can’t let the little, annoying things in business derail you from your dream.
There has never, ever been a better time in history for you and me to be successful in business.
Why not you?
Doubt, fear and insecurity about your ability to succeed. Everything you’re experiencing is completely normal.
Why it’s okay to feel doubtful and insecure
You might think that when you get to a certain level of business or income level, all those icky feelings will go away.
“My life will be perfect when I hit six figures.”
The truth is, I feel doubt and insecurity all the time and I have a very successful seven-figure business. Maybe not every second of every day, but it’s very present for me, especially when I’m launching something new or setting bigger goals.
I mastermind with other women who have successful seven-figure businesses and they still feel doubt and insecurity a lot of the time in their business.
Here’s some good news…
What scares you today won’t scare you tomorrow
What feels overwhelming today will be business as usual tomorrow.
But there’s bad news too.
The bad news is there’s always going to be something else to feel scared about as you move into bigger levels of your business – but you know you can handle it.
That’s my first and, really, my only point. It’s normal.
You can stop reading now if you want because what you’re experiencing is completely normal.
If you do want some more tips, here they are:
Keep your eye on the prize
It’s so important for you to have a big dream for your life and know how your business can support that.
If you don’t, it’s too easy to get derailed by some of those little things.
Remember: your business isn’t the be-all and end-all of your life.
It’s the tool to support the things you want to do.
It’s the tool that’s going to support where and how you would like to live.
Choose the business model for your lifestyle
You can choose the best business model for you to be able to travel if you want; to have kids if you want; to live somewhere sunny all year around if you want.
All of those things are now completely dependent upon your desires.
There are no rules anymore on how you should live your life or how you can run your business. You can create income while you’re traveling the world, or even have a huge global business from the smallest town.
I personally live in a medium sized town on the east coast of Australia, and I have readers and customers all over the world.
Stop making up excuses about your ability to succeed. You’re not too young, too old or too XYZ to be successful.
But it’s hard to get through the tricky parts of business if you don’t know what you’re playing for. For me, it’s a small price to pay to have the life of my dreams.
I really encourage you to spend some time solidifying your goals, especially knowing how much they cost, so you can connect your business success to your dream life. Even better if you can have a shared family dream.
How would you like to live?
What would your ideal day look like?
That will absolutely help you deal with the day-to-day stuff that comes with your business.
You can think, “This is the cost of living my dream, and it’s worth it.”
When you have a big dream, you’ll realize those little things that come up in business are just that – petty, little things.
You’ll realize how much more important your dream is than, say, a negative comment on Facebook, someone leaving a mean comment on your blog, or someone leaving you a one-star review.
When you look at those things, they don’t have equal weight.
Your dream does not have equal weight to other people’s opinions of you.
Am I really going to give up the dream for my life because somebody doesn’t like my book? Really? No way!
Am I really going to quit my business because I had a pain-in-the-butt client ask for a refund? Really? No way!
Am I going to give this person the power to make me shift and give up my dream? Really? No way!
I only got that recently when I saw the Jennifer Lawrence movie, Joy.
All the crap her character had to go through to be successful in business: her family trying to sue her and people sabotaging her success.
I was like, “Oh, my God. Why do we do this to ourselves?! Being in business is terrible!”
Sometimes, if I get a negative comment about something, I think, “Oh, I should give up. I don’t want to do this anymore, I just want to move to the beach and be a hermit.”
But then I think, “Really? You’re going to let this person have power over your dreams and dictate the course of your life? No. That’s not going to happen.”
Remember: keep one eye on that prize because anytime those little things come up, ask yourself if you’re willing to give up on your dream.
This was obviously a big breakthrough for me, and I hope it’s a breakthrough for you as well.
Business is business
Some things you go through are a rite of passage for any entrepreneur or business owner.
Things like getting a refund request, somebody leaving you a bad comment, or a client overstepping boundaries.
All of these are normal things that we have go through in business.
Listen – TOTALLY NORMAL AND UNAVOIDABLE.
Getting a refund request doesn’t mean anything. It just means you’re in business.
The saddest thing, is when I see women let these very normal things ruin their enjoyment for their business because they see those things as bigger than they actually are.
They see them as negative signs that they’re not meant to be successful in business, that this is not the path for them, or that they shouldn’t be doing this.
You have to re-frame any of these situations as normal rites of passage that every entrepreneur goes through. Normal and unavoidable. Normal and totally doable.
When you can learn to go through the little bumps, then the bigger ones aren’t going to be any worse.
You can handle it
You’ll have different rites of passage at different stages of your business, and that’s okay.
I have a great free resource for you.
If you haven’t downloaded this, I recommend you do it. It’s a free eBook with scripts and scenarios of all of the different, awkward conversations we sometimes have to have in business.
They can be awkward conversations around money, boundaries, clients taking advantage of you, or around other difficult things you might need to have conversations about.
You can get that at www.LuckyBitch.com/awkward.
If you’ve been feeling insecure, or feeling doubtful about your business success right now, I hope today’s article has given you some reassurance that you’re completely normal, that you can totally deal with this, and that your dream is bigger than those little problems you’re having.
You can do it.
It’s your time and you’re ready for the next step.
Did you miss last weeks post? Check it out here: How I Achieve Work Life Balance