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This is a juicy topic. Today you’re going to get some really good tips about how to become friends with successful entrepreneurs.
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Lucky Bitch Video Transcript – How To Make Friends With Successful Entrepreneurs
Have you ever noticed that famous or successful entrepreneurs, are friends with other famous and successful entrepreneurs? Funny that.
I remember as a new entrepreneur, I’d look at these people and see them taking photos together at conferences, or promoting each other’s work and think, “How the heck do I get into that amazing posse?”
The cool thing is that I now have a pretty amazing posse of my own.
And it’s come from a couple of years of trying a few different things, so here are some juicy tips:
Pay to get on people’s radars
One of the first and easiest ways that you can get on people’s radars is to pay for it. Simple!
I know that might sound like a bit of a depressing one to start with, but it’s the truth.
If you contact an entrepreneur and say, “Hey, can I take you out for coffee?” some might say yes. Some might say yes to a brain-picking session, but a lot of successful people won’t.
I very rarely do this kind of meetup. I think if someone wants to interview me, great. But I’m not going to sit down with a complete stranger and have coffee.
One, because I’m an introvert, and two, because I don’t have that much time. But, I’m really active in my Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp Facebook group, and I’ve met lots of amazing people in there who have gone on to become friends, clients, mastermind buddies and suppliers.
Be really mindful of that and think, “The quickest way might be to join their mastermind, join their program, go to their events and make myself known.”
Treat them like the normal people they are
The second tip is, when you do meet them, don’t be intimidated.
Don’t think they’ve got something you haven’t. Don’t be weird! Assume that you’re their equal because you ARE.
Don’t be a fangirl
That’s a really big tip. I’ve seen this even at my events. I’ve had people say, “Hey, Denise. It’s really great to meet you,” and we’ve become good friends.
But then there are other people who are like, “Oh, my God! It’s Denise. You’re so amazing. Can I touch you?”
It feels super weird
I’m just a normal person, and anyone that you look up to, anyone that you put on a pedestal, is just a normal person as well.
Be helpful without taking over
Get into their groups (either free or paid), and when you do, be helpful.
Be someone who is doing great things in the world by being helpful and being a leader.
It doesn’t mean taking over their groups or anything like that, but I can see – definitely in my groups – that there are people who are always on my radar because they’re being helpful.
They might tell people about a link that’s missing. Someone asks, “Hey, how do I log in?” and they’ll jump in with the log-in details. I remember that and think, “Wow. That person is being really helpful.”
Plus, it’s good karma – you might then be on their radar if they have an opportunity right for you.
Ask them for an interview
Offer to interview them. Get to know them a bit more. Again, be helpful by profiling them on your blog, for example, or interviewing them for your podcast.
It doesn’t hurt to ask.
Be an affiliate for their programs and services
I’ve usually promoted the work of people I aspire to be friends with, or get to know. Then, down the track, I’ll ask them to promote mine or maybe ask them out on a Skype date to chat about business.
The point is you can’t jump into those dates straight away. There’s a little bit of a warm-up period where you can be helpful first before you ask for anything in return.
Give before you receive
Go where they go
Go to the conferences that they go to. Be in those rooms. Sometimes you have to pay to be in those rooms but that’s where the friendships happen.
One of my friends – actually, a couple of my friends – went to Necker Island last year.
I remember thinking, “Oh man! Why didn’t I get to go to Necker?” They all said, “Anyone can go, Denise. You just pay to go.”
Mind blown. Oh, I don’t have to be selected to surround myself with successful people, I can just make it happen for myself.
All my friends going to Necker were hanging out with all these amazing people, and who knows where those relationships will lead?
Even though I’m an introvert, I do see the power in showing up and being around people that you aspire to be friends with in a casual setting, whether it’s a conference or a holiday experience.
Pay to be in those spaces
How else, really, are you going to get on people’s radars?
Again, offer to promote their work or interview them. That will pay off in the future.
Stay positive and create your own circle
The last thing I want to say is, don’t be discouraged if you feel like you haven’t been able to make traction in becoming friends with other successful entrepreneurs.
Start your own posse of up-and-comers
This has been such a great strategy for me. I’ve always surrounded myself with people who are going where I want to go. We’ve all come up together.
A lot of the people that I mastermind with started out in the same place, as newbie entrepreneurs.
I met some of them at conferences where we couldn’t afford our own rooms, so we roomed together and talked about our dreams long into the night. We’ve all helped each other grow into successful entrepreneurs. (I still sometimes share a room with my bestie Victoria Gibson just so we can gossip and mastermind)
So, don’t feel like you’re shut out of some exclusive circle…
Start your own
Look around at the people who you think are going where you want to go and ask, “Do you want to mastermind together? Should we have a meetup? Should we have a mastermind day? Let’s support each other to go to the next level.”
Then you create that posse together, which is really cool. And word will get around that you’re a group of people going places, and then other people will want to join your posse too. It’s so awesome.
What are your tips? How have you gotten on successful people’s radars? I’d love to hear from you in the comments.
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