Hi Lucky Bee!
Do you ever get the feeling that your friends are bringing you down?
When you hang out with friends do you feel like you can’t mention money because you think so differently to the people you’re hanging out with?
Don’t worry, we’re going to talk about what to do when you know you have to create or upgrade your lady mafia, and I have a great resource for you to use afterwards, too.
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What is a lady mafia?
Your lady mafia is that group of friends or mastermind buddies who you know will always have your back. These are your “ride or die” friends and mastermind buddies.
They’re the ones you call when everything’s gone wrong in your business or your life and who you KNOW will pick you up, tell you it’ll be OK and give you a kick in the pants if you need them to, as well.
They’re the friends you celebrate your successes, your ah-has and your screw-ups with.
You can outgrow your lady mafia.
It’s sad, but true: if you’re working on your mindset, your business and your money blocks, and your fellow lady posse members aren’t, then chances are that you’ll outgrow them pretty soon, if you haven’t already.
So what happens then?
You need to upgrade!
If you’re in my Money Bootcamp, then you’ll know that we talk about upgrades a lot.
Upgrades are one of the techniques you can use with to get closer to living your First Class Life – the one that will make you feel abundant, and like a money magnet.
How do you upgrade your lady mafia?
First of all, check who you’re hanging out with.
Are they friends who have all said that they want to start a business, but then just moan on about how they can’t quite decide what to do, or that it’s too hard?
Do they say they’ll do things, but then it takes them months to get around to it?
Maybe they’re big on ideas to improve their lives, but never actually do it and use every excuse under the sun to explain why.
If you’re on fire with ideas and enthusiasm, but your lady posse like to sit and whinge, then you’re not an energetic match… and I’m sorry sweetheart, but it’s really likely that they’ll bring you down.
When that happens, you pay with decreased business motivation that reflects in your bottom line.
And even if you’re not in business, that kind of energy can stop your manifestation mojo in its tracks.
So what can you do?
Check your energy!
The first thing to do when you suspect that it might be time to upgrade your lady mafia is to check in with your own energy when you think about the group.
You don’t even have to meet up with the group in person to do this: just think about how you feel when you’re face to face with them.
If it’s time to upgrade, you might feel:
- A drop in your energy,
- Irritated at the thought of seeing them
- Total eye-roll about what everyone moaned about last time you met, or
- Like you’d LOVE an excuse to skip the next session.
These are all signs that it’s time to think about an upgrade.
You might say, “Denise! These are my friends, and I can’t just get rid of them!”
And that’s totally cool. I’ve felt that way before, too.
But your mindset is the most important thing to success in your manifestation. And sometimes we do outgrow friends on our way to living the life we’re consciously manifesting for ourselves.
When you’re in business, it’s no different. You will outgrow some of your lady mafia mastermind buddies.
If you’re unsure of how to find another lady mafia to mastermind with for your business, remember, it’s totally possible. You’ll definitely find another one once you open yourself up for it!
How to upgrade your lady mafia
If you need to upgrade your lady mafia now, then here’s a few ideas of how you can:
Give them a chance to come with you.
If you don’t want to lose your current lady mafia, then this might be the way to go.
Just remember that you can’t make everyone take the journey with you.
Give them a chance to get on the train with you, but if it takes a lot of your energy to keep everyone motivated and enthused, it’s not worth it. You might have to face the fact that it’s time to cut your ties to that group.
Cut your ties. It can be as simple as saying that you can’t make your meetups anymore, or arranging other activities for yourself whenever the old group schedule something.
Manifest yourself a new lady mafia! This might sound really hard right now, but if you’ve cleared a space for it and created a vacuum as well as getting really specific about what you want, it will happen fast.
If you feel like you need help manifesting your new lady posse, then make sure you check out my free manifesting course. Grab it here: www.LuckyBitch.com/Formula.
Good luck, Lucky Bee and remember: it’s your time, and you’re ready for the next step.
Did you miss last week’s post? Read it here: 3 Stupid Lies that Stop You Getting Rich