Is it possible to change your thoughts about money with ONE ritual?
YUP – and it’s life-changing in every way.
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Lucky Bitch Video Transcript – How to Change Your Thoughts About Money
If you’ve read my book, or done my Lucky Bitch Money Bootcamp or, really, if you’ve even read any of my blogs, you will know that I talk about forgiveness a lot.
I think forgiveness is one of the most powerful and transformational personal development tools that you can ever, ever use in your life.
Maybe you’ve already done lots of forgiveness.
You’ve forgiven your parents; you’ve forgiven your teachers; you’ve forgiven a lot of people, but there’s one person left to forgive — and, actually, this makes all the difference.
It is forgiving yourself.
Self-forgiveness is such an amazing tool to release yourself from any past mistakes or perceived mistakes that you’ve made with your money and it really releases you to create amazing things and allows you to move on.
What kinds of things should you forgive yourself for?
One of the most powerful things you can do is to forgive yourself for past debt.
Now, you might be in debt right now, and debt creates a lot of shame for women.
It wastes a lot of mental energy and blame and, honestly, that is not serving you to pay off the debt and create your First Class life.
Start by writing down everything that got you into debt.
When I was in lots of debt, it was our wedding that got us there.
I had to do so much self-forgiveness on myself, but also on my husband for spending money that we didn’t have at the time and creating a lot of debt in our first years of marriage.
So write it all down. Get it all out.
You might have spent lots of courses that you really shouldn’t have.
Maybe you signed up for expensive coaching that didn’t really create the transformation you wanted. Or you’re still paying off a big, expensive life event, like a wedding or a holiday, that you put on a credit card.
Releasing the blame around that debt can be really powerful.
It doesn’t mean that you just say:
“Oh, I’m not going to learn from that lesson. No big deal. I’ll get into debt again,”
But it’s releasing the shame, blame and mental energy around it. When you release that, you will see that you’ll start to have some real clarity around how you can make more money and how you can pay it off quicker.
The second thing to forgive is past financial mistakes.
Maybe you’ve made investments in the past that weren’t the best investments. Maybe you trusted people that you feel really stupid about now.
Maybe you paid a lot of money for something and it really was crap and you didn’t really like it.
If you’ve read my book, you will hear that I talk a lot about upgrading.
Sometimes we buy something that actually didn’t give us any pleasure at all or something that we thought would be really cool and it wasn’t.
That could be a car, a holiday, an expensive handbag that you’ve never used, shoes that you thought would be amazing and you wore them once and you were like, “They freaking kill my feet.”
Forgive yourself for those past expenditure mistakes or those perceived mistakes and just let them all go.
Here’s what I’m going to suggest that you do:
Write a list of every single mistake you feel like you’ve ever made.
It could be from work, or old jobs.
Maybe you have to forgive yourself for not negotiating your salary, for not standing up for yourself when you were asked to take a pay cut or you were told that you’re not getting a pay increase.
Most of us, we’re holding a lot of old blame, guilt, shame and anger towards ourselves that we have to release.
Write down all those incidences where you really need to give yourself some compassion and give yourself forgiveness and release it and let it go.
Then go through the list one by one and look for recurring patterns.
- Are there any lessons that you have to learn from this?
- Are there any experiences that you don’t want to repeat anymore and you can give yourself permission to let them go?
- Or, do you just feel differently now about those experiences and you give yourself permission to do something different in the future?
That’s really the goal of this exercise. To give yourself permission to change, grow and learn from those mistakes.
Give yourself permission to start again, to trust yourself to make financial decisions that are different from what you’ve made in the past.
Now, I want to hear from you in the comments.
What is one thing you’d really like to forgive yourself for around your finances?
- Is it a past debt?
- Is it a past expenditure that really didn’t work out?
- Is it just a big fuck-up that you’ve done and you still think about it sometimes at 3:00 in the morning?
Releasing it is going to create so much freedom.
It’s going to free up a lot of creative energy and space for you to come up with ideas to make more money. Trust me on this.
I’ve actually got a freebie for you. I have created a guided meditation to take yourself through this process of forgiveness. Click here to download the forgiveness meditation (this is normally just for my Money Bootcampers).
Honestly, this is absolutely going to change your life in the next year if you just free up that creative energy.
Free up that space and give yourself permission to do something different.
I totally forgive you and I really hope that you forgive yourself and give yourself that gift of forgiveness.
Did you miss last week’s video? Check it out here: Should You Earn More Money Than Your Clients?